Do you ever wake up in the morning and wonder if you really matter? Do you ever ask yourself what the point is of life?
Or are you to afraid to even go there because you’re afraid of the answer?
If so, then chances are that you never really had a good father figure in your life that believed in you; who encouraged you and told you that you matter.
I know how you feel, because I’m part of the group.
My dad died when I was 14 years old and my step dad never really knew how to be my dad. Instead of being encouraged, I was told that I’d never be able to reach my dreams. I was told that I wasn’t good enough.
And for a while I almost gave up on life, but thank God, I didn’t.
So, today I’m going to show you how you can get rid of that gut-wrenching feeling of not being good enough.
#1: Don’t blame your dad.
Why not? He deserves it, doesn’t he?!
Maybe he does, but when you blame him for it, all it will do is eat yourself up. It will cause you to hate and you’ll end up becoming just like him because you’re focusing on it.
As they say, “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.”
#2: Instead, as Tony Robbins says, “Blame him more powerfully.”
Blame him for making someone as cool as you are. Blame him for anything good that you can possibly think of.
Do everything you can to find at least one thing positive to blame him for.
It will change your focus, which in turn will change your life and the very way you think about him. Therefore, you will feel free from the curses he may have spoken over you or the abuse he may have directed toward you.
#3: Don’t give up on your dreams
According to the US Department of Census 43% of children live without their fathers in the US.
Of those children, high percentages give up in life because they don’t feel worthy because their father left them. That or their father never acknowledged them.
Whichever one you are, I want to be the first to tell you that you are worth it.
And your dreams… they matter. A LOT!
Those dreams make you who you are. If you can dream it, you can do it.
My stepdad once told me that my Internet marketing business would never take off. That I’d fail at it.
But, I didn’t give up and just last week I made over $5,000 for about 8 hours of work.
So, whatever you do, don’t give up.
#4: Find a good father figure.
Your dad may have made you un-trusting of all fathers, however, not all fathers are bad fathers. In fact, there are many good ones.
For example, I ran across this man named Leonard Evans a couple years ago. He was one of those cool fathers who didn’t actually have any children of his own. Instead, he would take a lot of young men under his wing and believe in them when they didn’t believe in themselves.
I found out that a lot of these young men’s lives were changed dramatically because of Leonard. While they got drunk and smoked weed, Leonard never judged them. He just loved them and helped them see who they truly were.
It was beautiful to see because it changed their lives and they finally started feeling alive.
In the same way, having someone that believes in you as a father figure can change your life.
#5: But, how do I find someone?
I won’t sugarcoat this. It can be hard to find someone that will be invested in you and will truly treat you like a good father should.
For years, I tried finding a father figure for my life. I felt broken because I didn’t have anyone older to celebrate my victories with me and who was there for me in my darkest times.
I needed someone. Plain and simple.
You do too.
Today, Papa Leonard, as I like calling him, is one of a couple of father figures that I can go to when I’m feeling down.
Since I want to help you find a father figure that will be there for you, I talked Leonard into making a 21-day discipleship course as a dad talking to his son.
While this course isn’t the same as having a father figure in front of you, it’s a good start.
Plus, it won’t cost you anything because I convinced Leonard to give this to you for free.
At first we were planning on selling it for as much as $97 since it took a lot of work. However, when I was editing the videos, I had moments where I would tear up because I felt so loved and empowered.
In that moment, I knew I had to get this course to every young man out there who didn’t feel worthy and who didn’t have a father that was there for them.
I believe this course is the answer, or at least a good start.
- It will help you dream again.
- It will help you feel like your life if worth something.
- It will also help you find freedom and victory in this life.
You can sign up for it here. Again, it’s completely free.
Just enter your name and email address.